Ain't love a strange thing?

I recently had a discussion about love. We agreed that love is a state - a state of mind perhaps. How do we determine whether we love or are in love? 

Love changes according to our emotional psyche. However, I believe that there are levels to that state and we move around this in a circular motion with external factors determining which level we end up in at any given time.  There is free movement between levels, so we can move forwards or backwards.  As for the alteration of the state, the factor that made it what it is can never be forgotten and therefore will always heavily influence whether or not one believes that they have eliminated the state of love - it is important here to note that the word believes is used as if for example, you are in a relationship and think you are in love or love someone, the state can be altered by things such as having control, neglect etc., then we as humans quickly conclude that they no longer love or are in love because of being emotionally traumatised.  The turning point here is that a few moments or years down the line, although what has altered the state is not forgotten, the emotion and the affection is also not forgotten and is more likely to overpower the human psyche and recharge the circular state. So when someone reignites their relationship, whether closely or from a distance, the influence of the altered state determines the level within that wheel.

During that time we take to make adjustments to our altered love wheel, my view is that we can therefore be in love or love more than one person at a time. Albeit at different levels and states but the fact remains that when you sit and think about someone, there is movement within your psyche that triggers the exact emotion for that particular individual - which consequently adds other beings to any vacant gap on your wheel.  What this could potentially mean is  that we have access to more than one state and sets of wheels and can instantly slot a 'state of love' neatly into place. 

Now, the difference between love and being in love is likely to provoke arguments that they are or are not the same. I love eating chicken but I'm not in love with it because I can do without eating it everyday or more than once per day. I can also eat different foods to satisfy my hunger. If we think about being in love, our hunger or desire is never satisfied. Every waking moment is spent recounting and fantasising about that other person. It could be confused with being infatuated, however, infatuation is one of the starting points that determine which path the 'state' will develop. When you love someone you can do without seeing them. When you're in love, you tend to have various degrees of emotional and psychological triggers surging through your body. 

The other issue to justify is which state lasts longer and which one can easily be retrieved after an alteration to that state....💕

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